You Forgot That I Existed
You Forgot That I Existed is conversations between two friends with moms with Alzheimer's Disease. Joanna's mom is currently in a memory care facility. Sue's mom has passed from this cruel disease. While Joanna and Sue are not experts in the field of Alzheimer care, they will share what they have learned re: assisted living , finances, and legally caring for aging loved ones. The hosts keep it light by peppering in stories of their college kids, dogs, books, & pop culture.
You Forgot That I Existed
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Hi Joanna.
Jojo (00:46)
Hey, I'm adjusting all my windows so I can see you and my notes at the same time.
You Forgot (00:53)
I was like, okay, that was a very ⁓ low energy high.
Jojo (00:58)
yeah, 'cause I'm like trying
to move all my windows around so I can see you. Okay, there you are. How's it going? You're still in you're still in Colorado.
You Forgot (01:03)
Hi. ⁓
Yes.
Jojo (01:10)
Yes. And I don't blame you because it is so, so hot here and humid.
You Forgot (01:16)
⁓ okay, on that note, how was your week? What's going on?
Jojo (01:22)
Okay, let me just list the cities I've been in in the last seven days. Vancouver, Toronto, diversion to Tulsa because of the weather, Minneapolis, and somewhere else I can't remember. and Guadalajara.
You Forgot (01:39)
yeah, Guadalajara, I forgot about that.
Jojo (01:40)
Wallahara.
And I was at the hotel that the Korean soccer team for FIFA FIFA was at.
You Forgot (01:50)
So did you go to the match?
Jojo (01:53)
No, I mean I don't know is there a match going on right now or they just training? I'm confused.
You Forgot (01:58)
I don't know. ⁓ you know they're gonna be in Dallas.
Jojo (02:02)
Yeah, I
mean but they're saying you know, in the we get all these emails from American now saying like, record number of passengers cause of FIFA but then I'm looking at other things saying hotels are not sold out. So that those two things are not those things are not aligning. So what's going on?
You Forgot (02:16)
⁓ terrible.
I don't know, but Dallas is such a shitty place for this. It's a terrible place for ⁓ events. It just is. Everything is so far apart. People are gonna buy their hotel in downtown Dallas or make make the mistake even of going farther north. Like you're like, ⁓ it's a couple miles, like into Richardson. Nope.
Jojo (02:35)
Yes, yes.
Not knowing.
You Forgot (02:50)
You're two days away from Arlington, Texas. It is so it would be so hard to plan like a trip to Dallas. I don't know why anyone would want what do you come to Dallas for?
Jojo (02:50)
Nope. Yep. Yep.
Right? Me, Cassina and the mall? Is that like that's what we have going on?
You Forgot (03:10)
I mean, people like to visit the JFK museum, but like
Jojo (03:16)
Okay. Honestly, you know I've never
been there. Like I I've lived here my whole life. Never done that.
You Forgot (03:23)
I went when family was in town, you know.
Jojo (03:27)
And I
like history. I don't know why I'm not going to that.
You Forgot (03:32)
⁓ I don't know, but you know, that kid that is running for what governor or something in Georgia, he's like our next shot as like a hot president. Yeah. Speaking of hot presidents.
Jojo (03:42)
Yes.
I'm like
when he puts those glasses on, you just just stop. I have to just shut my computer down.
You Forgot (03:54)
Yeah, like what if we get another hot president? That would be awesome.
Jojo (03:57)
I would die.
Him and Buddig on the same ticket? Just the hotter guy. The hotter guy.
You Forgot (04:03)
Who would be president? Pete.
Yeah, but Pete's
P seems more
Jojo (04:11)
No one's electing a
gay president.
You Forgot (04:15)
Not in this country.
Jojo (04:16)
A vice president? Possibly.
You Forgot (04:20)
Yeah. Huh.
Did Spencer Pratt win his election?
Jojo (04:28)
I mean we can't we cannot be mayor. Like what are we doing here? Did we not listen to Lauren Conrad back in the day? When she was like Spencer sucks!
You Forgot (04:29)
⁓ yeah. I just thought I
Yeah, he does. I feel bad about the house and everything, but I don't know
Jojo (04:44)
Yeah, but that doesn't qualify
you to be a fucking mayor.
You Forgot (04:47)
Yeah.
Jojo (04:48)
I don't know why, like I need to calm down. Why d I don't even live in Los Angeles. Why do I care?
You Forgot (04:53)
Well, it's just like a metaphor for everything. People doing dumb yes. Yes.
Jojo (04:58)
The dummification of our politics.
You Forgot (05:04)
Yeah, I hate politics. But I mean things are a turning around, so like who knows what's about to happen.
Jojo (05:10)
I know.
I know. Why do I feel optimistic? I don't know.
You Forgot (05:15)
'Cause it's summertime.
Jojo (05:17)
True. Guess what I'm doing after this? I'm gonna go take a nap in the pool.
You Forgot (05:24)
All right. You wanna get to the we got some questions. We got some ⁓ just some random questions from the last couple of weeks.
Jojo (05:32)
Okay.
You Forgot (05:34)
⁓ this one always comes up. The scamming. And I wanted to bring it up again because it's all over the news again. And we ⁓ Anthony, when he was here the other day, got the call, got a call from it, one of the scams, and I was just like, That's a scam, that's a scam. Cause I could hear Anthony trying to first of all understand what this person was saying. And
And it wasn't even like a foreign accent, it was just not enunciating, like just like jumbled, like he had marbles in his mouth. And it was the the scam was saying that you didn't show up for jury duty and you're gonna be charged, and it's court, you have to go to court, like you, blah, blah, blah. And that's like what we were making out. And
The shitty thing is and it was just another
Like a thought of why people do sometimes fall for these things, like when smart, intelligent people fall for these scams, because Anthony did just have jury duty. Like, yes, yes. And and I'm just sitting there going, like, stop talking. It's a scam. Hang up, it's a scam. But we were also on phone with
Jojo (06:50)
It's like they can find that out and and that's how they mark you.
You Forgot (07:08)
The county for a couple other things that same day. So we were like, is this them calling back? Like, what is happening? So you could totally see how this can happen. But he he Anthony was so excited. He goes, Nope, nope, I know this is a scam. I know this is a scam because they actually paid me, they sent me the money because I was dismissed and did. And I'm like, Anthony, just hang up. But like,
Jojo (07:14)
Well.
Yeah, just
hang up. But he's like, I've got receipts, scammer.
You Forgot (07:37)
Just hang up, my boy.
Yeah, he was way too excited. Nope, nope, he I know this is a scam. I'm like after I'm sitting there going, hang up 'cause the guy couldn't even he couldn't enunciate. But ⁓
Jojo (07:48)
Yeah, it's just
Man, I got an email
the other day that I almost fell for. It said something I ha about my American Airlines credit card, which I have one. And it was like, ⁓ I don't even know what it was saying, but it was like, click this link and I almost clicked it and I was like, Wait a second. So I copied and pasted everything and put it in chat GPT and it was like, that's a scam.
You Forgot (08:15)
Yeah, you know, we went right to Google and asked about the scam saying jury duty and that is a thing. So the question was just how to protect from all these scams if you know people that are ⁓ smart and sane fall for them all the time. Remember that Andy Cohen story last year, a couple years ago? He so let's see, what did we say? A couple ideas for protecting yourself.
Jojo (08:32)
Yeah. Thousands and thousands of dollars.
You Forgot (08:45)
If if at all possible, get control of your parents' finances. I know that's really hard. It's so hard.
Jojo (08:54)
It's and sometimes you have to be a little untruthful about it.
You Forgot (08:59)
Yeah, I mean, even if they are of sound mind,
It's just really scary how many people are falling for this. But it's just ⁓ some ways to protect yourself. Just just never ever send money or gift cards or crypto to anyone you don't know. Could you imagine? There was a story I remember the girl this woman was going to like she went to a convenience store and was trying to y they had a crypto exchange machine there. And thank God the lady working was like, There is no way this person has crypto.
Or is exchanging money for crypto and she wouldn't let the lady continue with the transaction. And I know that retail is training their people to recognize this stuff now. And banks, like you have to like jump through hoops to get your own money sometimes, which I think is all protection. ⁓
Jojo (09:36)
Right.
Yeah. Sure. I yeah, protect
me 'cause I can't trust myself sometimes, so
You Forgot (10:01)
And that also says to like hang up and call your bank on your own and see if it was legit. Like anytime anyone's asking for a personal number of any sort, account number, social security, hang up. That doesn't happen.
Jojo (10:17)
Asking for that. I even have my credit on hold. So no one can like open up a credit card in my name. And ⁓ it's really easy to do. It's like one button. You log in to whatever credit company that is, I can't remember. And you just you can hit like the green button says put it on hold. And then when you need
credit. Like yesterday I was buying a car in my pool and I needed credit. So you just go to that website and unpause it, buy your car or whatever you're doing, put it back on pause.
You Forgot (10:49)
to go back through episodes and see how many times you have said, I just bought a car from my phone in my pool.
Jojo (10:59)
I think it's only three. I think it's only I've only I've had five cars in the last five years. But I feel like this time I'm gonna I'm gonna keep this one for a couple of years, I think. We shall see.
You Forgot (11:01)
That's a lot, Joe.
That's
so funny. I am gonna go look him back. ⁓
Jojo (11:16)
I mean, why would
you buy a car any other way when you can be lounging in your pool, click, click, click on your phone, it gets delivered. Like done and done. I honestly I think I texted you, I was like, I have twenty three percent left on my phone battery. I need to hurry up and do this. It only took like five minutes.
You Forgot (11:31)
Yeah. ⁓
it's just all about like the test driving and stuff for me. But you know, you're getting the a car that you had before same model, so
Jojo (11:41)
I'm like, what could it possibly feel like test driving where I'd be like, No, I don't think so.
You Forgot (11:48)
Okay, and then ⁓ back to this. just secure your information, like set up your banking apps to require two factor authentic authentication and shred mail. When you get stuff in the mail, if you still get snail mail, shred things with your numbers on them, account numbers and everything. And
Jojo (11:52)
yeah.
You know, I used to be
so good about that and I just have fallen off the shredding wagon lately.
You Forgot (12:17)
If you do ever get targeted, you can report it to the Federal Trade Commission website. And there's a National Elder Fraud Hotline. We'll put all that on the Instagram. Yep, there's National Elder Fraud Hotline And you can speak with someone. Or it if Yeah, if you did. You could report it and get help.
Jojo (12:31)
⁓
If you think you're getting scammed or if an elder has gotten scammed.
I know when Gaga got scammed at GameStop, they're they were like, Sorry, nothing we can do.
You Forgot (12:52)
Well, since that happened, and that was with a gift card thing, right? They told her to go buy gift cards.
Jojo (12:56)
No. Twenty
four hundred dollars in gift cards.
You Forgot (12:59)
And they and they sold the gift cards. Sh they sold Gaga the gift cards then.
Jojo (13:02)
Even
though the sweet little teenager was like, This doesn't seem right. Are you sure? Are you sure? I don't want to do this a hundred times. And she was like, Yeah, I need it.
You Forgot (13:11)
Well, now they have more protections in place. I guess I just saw a thing, I think it was on Threads, and it was about Sephora gift cards. They were being told to go buy Sephora gift cards. And whoever was commenting that Sephora should be like on top of this and ⁓ shame on them and you know, because they make their money if you buy that, so they don't care.
Jojo (13:36)
⁓
You Forgot (13:37)
But then somebody replied and they showed Sephora's website and it was like if you are asked to buy gift card or something, it was like there was a warning like on their actual website. And I mean what yeah, and what else can they do? I mean, they are training retail ⁓ management to look for these kind of signs 'cause it's a fucking epidemic.
Jojo (13:48)
good.
Yes.
It's an epidemic. Truly is.
You Forgot (14:04)
Okay. ⁓ this is a weird question. ⁓ I've been reading a lot about death with with dignity. How do you feel about it? And would you ever opt for this if it was legal in your state?
Jojo (14:18)
I mean, I'm a huge proponent for it.
You Forgot (14:19)
I
I like it.
I like it. But and I did go to ⁓ death with there's a death with dignity.org website and it tells you all kinds of stuff. You have to like find out if your state even is into it. But the you know, a lot of people will be interested in the Alzheimer aspect of that. And
it it it it doesn't really apply, which is
Not I'm not saying too bad because I would have like killed my mom, but we can't opt for that. Like if we get Alzheimer's. Like it says ⁓ on the website, it's there was they have a question section there. And it says, Can my family member or a proxy request participation in medical aid and dying on my behalf? For example, if I'm in a coma.
Jojo (15:10)
Really?
You Forgot (15:27)
or suffer from Alzheimer's disease or dementia? And the answer is no. The law requires that you participate voluntarily on your own behalf and meet eligibility criteria at the time of your request.
Jojo (15:39)
So if you have Alzheimer's, you can't do that.
You Forgot (15:43)
Right.
Jojo (15:44)
That's crazy.
You Forgot (15:45)
I know, but like I wonder if there's a way to just have everything just written out like if I don't know my kid, it's over. Like it's a terminal disease, you know.
Jojo (15:55)
Yeah. Yeah. There's no coming
back from it. Although in the future maybe there is.
You Forgot (15:59)
Let's hope so.
Jojo (16:01)
Yeah.
You Forgot (16:01)
Yeah, it's like I didn't I didn't really think about that. You can't just walk into the doctor and be like, I have dementia. I wanna do the death with dignity thing to, you know, take all this burden off my family. You can't do it.
Jojo (16:17)
Can't do it. So, like, this is for like maybe at very last stage terminal cancer.
You Forgot (16:25)
Yeah. And sometimes it's involved like if you're already in hospice, you know, and there's there's
Jojo (16:26)
Okay.
Okay.
You Forgot (16:34)
And it it's but it's like you have to find a doctor that will prescribe it. And it said like one in five like don't take it. Like they just all they just get scared and they don't take it. Yeah.
Jojo (16:47)
I was thinking about
your mom though in her last days. She had like a broken leg or hip and sh what happened?
You Forgot (16:56)
No.
She just went to the hospital. They just called me. They were like she's I don't even remember if she like fell or anything on that one. But she went to the hospital and it was she was just done. She was just done.
Jojo (17:12)
But that wouldn't have qualified.
You Forgot (17:13)
And then
no, I mean she went into hospice right after that. Like from the hospital, we got hospice. And then there it's just comfort care. She wasn't eating. She probably hadn't been eating and drinking for a while. Like a couple of days. I think she just made up her mind to do that, honestly. She would just looked at me like would like roll her eyes like come on.
Jojo (17:28)
Okay.
Yeah, she was so ready to die.
You Forgot (17:41)
beyond.
so yeah, I'm for death with dignity, for sure. I it would be such a horrible thing to like
Jojo (17:45)
For sure.
You Forgot (17:51)
you know, tell your people or whatever that that's what you wanted to do if you potentially had like a little more time. But
Jojo (18:00)
understand.
You Forgot (18:02)
I would hope so. I would just have to look at I would just be like Marta, like, do you wanna change my diapers? She'd be like, Where's the pill? Would you like a glass of water?
Jojo (18:04)
It's like the kindest thing to do.
Right.
Yes, so I would be like,
You Forgot (18:19)
How many pills do you want?
Yeah, I mean nobody nobody wants to put their kids through that.
Jojo (18:28)
No, absolutely not.
You Forgot (18:32)
All right. I gotta this is a random, but I mean I get it. ⁓ where is it? Father's Day is coming up. What do you do or buy for your husbands? Or do you let your adult children take over now?
Jojo (18:50)
⁓ I've been letting the kids take over since maybe they were like sixteen and they could drive. Yeah, that Matt's not my dad. So I'm not doing anything.
Is that rude?
You Forgot (19:05)
No, I I don't think it's rude. I ⁓ I think in our house it's it's like a group effort. You know, we well Marta always she'll tell us what she thinks we should get him or whatever. But he doesn't want anything. I mean, we're when when you're adults, you buy what you want when you want if you need it. And but last year she did she was
Jojo (19:11)
Okay.
Correct.
You Forgot (19:35)
really thoughtful. She's a really good gift giver. But she got him a a Garmin watch. It was basically like the Apple watch or whatever. And it's a really it's really cool and it looks it looks pretty nice. And so she picked that out. And because last year we were together with no kids. So it was kinda like
Jojo (19:42)
yeah.
You Forgot (19:53)
Mm. You know, I think I I ordered Katz's deli from New York City, which
Jojo (19:55)
yeah.
yeah, I love when you
do that.
You Forgot (20:02)
You guys, best gift ever. Kat's deli in New York City will deliver pastrami, corned beef, the bread. You can get black and white cookies. You can get matzo ball soup. Anything that they have with the deli, the pickles. And yes. And the Russian dressing if you want to build Rubens. And their mustard, which is worth getting the package alone. I don't know why. It's just the best.
Jojo (20:19)
Sauerkraut?
You Forgot (20:31)
And I could eat it with a spoon. And it's the best gift. It's not it's not overpriced. And they send it right to your door. The meat is ⁓ vacuum sealed and frozen. but it's ⁓ these big giant freezer packs. It's all insulated. It's awesome.
Jojo (20:48)
They need to give us a promo
code.
You Forgot (20:51)
Maybe I'll email her. I mean like there'll be like I think I've ordered it like four times by now. Like it I'm thinking about it now.
Jojo (20:58)
Are you doing it this year?
Yeah. It should be a tradition, a Father's Day tradition.
You Forgot (21:05)
Yeah, it has been. I just haven't thought about it yet. And you can pick for your day to be delivered because you are getting food delivered. So you have to be home. One time I wasn't home. I don't know why I got held up, but I called my neighbor Matthew and had him go and put it all in the freezer for me. ⁓ seriously, it's so dang good. And when you go to Katz's deli and get like one sandwich, it's like 23 bucks or whatever, right? And so do you get this?
Jojo (21:21)
You save the pastroom me.
Yes. Yes.
You Forgot (21:34)
Because they're enormous. But then if you order the pack, I don't make my sandwiches that big, right? So feeds a lot and it's like a hundred and twenty bucks, hundred it's not that bad for a for a pfff for a fun surprise gift from New York City. Corn
Jojo (21:46)
Market. That's basically free.
I'll take a food
gift any day of the week. I love a food gift. ⁓ but Matt, like like Anthony, he's not into gifts. If he needs something he buys it himself. But he's a big quality time guy. So, ⁓ honestly I don't I need to talk to Sloane 'cause now that she flies for free, we can fly her home for the weekend. But Jack will be here. ⁓ and they'll probably hang out 'cause I'll be working.
You Forgot (22:19)
What else? You have any favorite things?
Jojo (22:21)
I do. ⁓ so you know, summertime, all the game shows come back in the summer, which I love a game show. I love them so much. And my favorite one just started this week. Again, season three, Password with Jimmy Fallon and Kiki Palmer. ⁓ I love Password. I love trying to guess the clues. I love trying to think of good clues that I would use. I feel like I would kill on that show. ⁓ Jimmy Fallon is so good. Have you ever watched this?
You Forgot (22:51)
I yeah, Jimmy Fallon bugs the shit out of me. But like I love Kiki. But the best one, the best one, there's that clip. I can't remember who the girl is, but she ⁓ when she says diamonds and ASAP Rocky, yeah, she's like Rihanna, and it's like his wife. So good.
Jojo (22:54)
Yeah.
Yes. Diamonds.
Yes, yes. I just love
it. It's like a comfort show. You can put it on and just like laugh and play along. I love it. And then also I have another favorite thing that you put me on to, which is on Audible. ⁓ it's called ⁓ it won't steal it then. You talk about it.
You Forgot (23:24)
⁓ my favorite thing.
No, no, it's same. Mother Neighbor Russian Spy. It's a podcast on Audible. I guess it's a couple of years old, but ⁓ Rosamond Pike hosts and so listening to her is lovely. She has a beautiful voice. And it's about these Russian spies that came to the States and integrated into American life and made friends, but not too many friends, just enough. And it's kind of
Jojo (23:33)
Yes.
You Forgot (23:57)
Freaking fascinating. And you learn about like their like the underworld of like the spies because one guy was like ⁓ he went to the FBI to be a double, what's it called? A double, what's it called? Yeah, but there's like another word for it. Like ⁓ like when they're doing both countries. I can't double agent, yeah. ⁓
Jojo (24:11)
Double spy.
Double agent. Yeah.
You Forgot (24:25)
And so he kind of well I don't want to ruin it for anyone, but he kind of gets it's so it's really interesting though, and ⁓ it's the basis for the TV show The Americans.
Jojo (24:28)
Yeah, I'm only on episode five.
Yeah, okay. And if you don't know who ⁓ go ahead.
You Forgot (24:41)
And I I'm gonna
start watching that and because I love both those actors. I can't believe I never watched it. I don't know. It was on a weird channel, I feel like. It was on like it yeah, it was like something that I didn't pay attention to. But
Jojo (24:50)
Is it like FX?
tried I
just couldn't get into it.
You Forgot (24:59)
really? See, like I just read so many good things about it and I I don't typically go back to shows that I didn't already watch because I feel like I would have watched them in at that time. But then I would have missed out on like Shits Creek because you know, people told me to watch that for years and I was like, Nope, they bug. And now look at me every day, baby.
Jojo (25:25)
I know, it's your favorite comfort
show. Well, if you don't know Rosamond Pike, she was in Gone Girl. 'Cause I had to l I was like, I recognize that name, but I can't put where she was at. She was in Gone Girl and Pride and Prejudice. And I like that she's like that's right, Saltburn, which Sloan made me watch and I was traumatized for life. ⁓ that bathtub scene, ew. Ew. But she
You Forgot (25:39)
And salt burn.
Nope.
Jojo (25:52)
I like how she narrates because it's not like she's just reading a script. She'll be like, you know, I I know what that feeling is like when you're at a market and you can tell people are staring at you because I'm a famous person and that's how this person felt too. And w when she started like veering and giving her own little insider stuff, I was like, wait a second, this is like a not a normal narrator. She's giving her own like opinion about it.
You Forgot (26:15)
Yeah.
Well, I think she was a producer on it too. Like it was like her deal or something. And I also like too, there's no commercials.
Jojo (26:23)
Okay.
Yes. And it's how is it free?
You Forgot (26:31)
Audible has a bunch of free listening podcasts, maybe to get you to purchase. I don't know.
Jojo (26:39)
maybe.
But I I'm nor I'm so used to like now I'm driving back and forth to the airport. It could be anywhere from like forty minutes to an hour. And I listen to my normal podcasts, but then when I'm done with those, now I have something new to listen to.
You Forgot (26:52)
That was my absolute problem. I was like
I had nothing to listen to walking and I listened to the audible one, the mother neighbor Russian spy like at the pool the other day. And I mean I just laid there and listened.
Yeah, and it it it reads or it listens like ⁓ like how serial, like it like and that's what I'm always looking for. And every time I listen to some damn true crime, they never figure out like there's no conclusion.
Jojo (27:13)
Yes.
That's ⁓ wait, is there a conclusion on this one?
You Forgot (27:28)
Yeah. Yeah, thank God. 'Cause if they would have like, Yeah, we don't know what happened to I'd be pissed. And I feel like I get let down so often after you invest time.
Jojo (27:28)
Okay, good.
Yeah, kinda like parallel, when you're watching House Hunters International, at the very end of the show they're like, We didn't choose a house I'm like, then why the fuck did I just watch this for thirty minutes? Like
You Forgot (27:55)
Why did they even put that episode out?
Jojo (27:57)
Yeah. It happens all the time where they're like, We didn't like any of so we're just gonna keep looking.
You Forgot (28:03)
I I don't I think that ⁓ I like when they get to the end of like a house hunters and then they like show what they've done with it after they've been in there for a couple of months, you're like, Ew
Jojo (28:14)
It's always
bad. It's always bad.
You Forgot (28:17)
Like, ⁓ yeah
Jojo (28:22)
Speaking of
favorite things, I'm gonna try something new home improvement wise that you have already done. And I'll see that it's my favorite thing. The peel and stick wallpaper. Never done it before. And I need your tips.
You Forgot (28:30)
⁓ I
I know. And you know, yes
yesterday I was actually literally talking to Jen about it because I bought wallpaper last time was here to do my little bathroom and I forgot to do it. here it is. And this is ⁓ this is one from Lowe's. It's the Property Brothers brand. I'm just doing like this gr grass cloth look because ⁓ but there's a couple really good brands. Like I think th this one was Amazon. This one's not that great.
Jojo (28:52)
Okay. Okay.
You Forgot (29:04)
⁓ but wall blush is really good. Paint painted paper.
Jojo (29:07)
Okay. I got some swatches
from chasing paper. Yeah, so maybe we can put them up on the Instagram and people can vote.
You Forgot (29:11)
you did?
I can't believe you didn't tell me. Well this is save it for the pod.
Jojo (29:20)
I forgot to they just came
in. Save it for the thought. ⁓ but this is gonna be an accent wall in Sloane's room 'cause she's moving back home and we're so excited, so
You Forgot (29:30)
When does she come in?
Jojo (29:31)
She thinks the last week of July. She's trying to give her company enough time to find someone to replace her, even though she hasn't told them she's leaving yet.
You Forgot (29:45)
She needs to tell him.
Jojo (29:47)
Well, she's gonna tell them she has a work trip next week and she wants to go on the work trip to Saint Louis and then sh she's like when I get back from that she's got a couple of projects that no one else can really She's like, I gotta finish these projects. That would just be rude to leave them. So she's gotta finish those and then she's like and then I'll tell them.
You Forgot (30:08)
sounds just like my kid, unfortunately. ⁓ she told her company she would be there till August. But now she's just like, I I can't I can't do it. I can't sit here all day. And the office is like in the basement, and she's she's like losing her mind. And you it's such it's just so tricky because you just want to be like
Jojo (30:33)
Sounds slow.
You Forgot (30:38)
Yeah, you're in the working world. Like I don't know what you want me to do. But I realize how many decisions like this, like work, school, everything, I made on my own. I didn't call my mom or dad. I didn't like they didn't know anything I was doing after like 19. They didn't know how my brain worked, how I made decisions, like w what I ate. I mean, they knew nothing about me. And so I there's part of you that wants to go like
Jojo (30:55)
Correct.
You Forgot (31:08)
Get it together. Like it's your job. Like go to the basement, do your job, and then and she works Monday through Friday, right? There it's not weekends. And so I'm like, then you go go to you have your summer in New York City and go to the Hamptons. I don't know what you do. Well, poor kids. I don't know if they go to the Hamptons, but find a friend who has a house. But I yeah, but then I'm also like, Yeah, that sounds like it sucks.
Jojo (31:10)
It's
Yeah, and I think about back when I was that age, struggling, no support from my parents. When once again, they didn't know that like some weeks we didn't have enough money for groceries. I couldn't because why would I tell them that? It's not like they're gonna help me. ⁓ and so just the fact that Sloane can be like, This really sucks. I wish I could go back to my twenty two year old self and be like, Let me help you. Like you don't need to struggle. So I d yeah, I don't there's no reason to struggle right now. Come move home.
Come back to Mummy. Let me help you. Until you figure out what you want to do. It's fine.
You Forgot (32:12)
And it's not like this is rare. Like their job market sucks, housing sucks.
Jojo (32:15)
No.
Yeah.
It's not nothing's affordable.
and I are really bonding right now over Summer House. I finally got her on board. She has completed the season and now she's gonna start watching Reunion Part One and Two. This is like we have something to talk about.
You Forgot (32:39)
Yeah, I mean I
Marta and I we do talk a lot about T V and stuff like it's like the testaments. We'd watch that. Did did Sloaney watch the testaments?
Jojo (32:51)
I a I need to ask
her. I started and then I forgot I started, so I need to keep going.
You Forgot (32:55)
⁓
it's so it's so good. I think we've talked about testaments as a favorite thing. I think I did like last time. But yeah, it was really good. Yep.
Jojo (33:02)
Are all the episodes out?
my god, what am I doing? Yeah, that's what I'm gonna do in the pool. Okay.
You Forgot (33:09)
And ⁓ it's really good. They're gonna do a really good job with it. It veers from the book a lot, but for the better. It 'cause we wanna see certain people from handmaids show up, you know, like but in the testaments they didn't. So and Margaret Atwood was on set the other day, so apparently she loves what they're doing, so who cares? She's in a scene.
Jojo (33:16)
Yeah okay.
Yes.
⁓ good.
No way.
You Forgot (33:36)
Mm-hmm. ⁓ can we talk about yesteryear? Are you reading that yet?
Jojo (33:41)
No, but that's on my list for real. 'Cause I've seen it all over the place.
You Forgot (33:46)
So have you seen the absolute like love hate that's happening with this? It's like people are like, I hate this book, I hate this book, but I'm gonna finish it. I hate her, I hate it, I hate it. And I'm doing the same thing. It's taking me forever to get through. And I I'm not sure why. Well, it's on my Kindle and that's I'm still reading it. Like so I must she's a very un
Jojo (33:53)
I am.
Wait, so you don't like it?
'Cause I'll quit a book
real quickly if I don't like it.
You Forgot (34:17)
Well, she's an unlikable character, but I love the concept. It's like she's like trad wife, like ⁓ influencer. But then and and the thing I don't under and but then all of a sudden she's back in like the eighteen hundreds. Like living in this world that she perpetrates as like getting back to basics in the real world. But then she's like I don't but I don't know how she's like sent back. They don't like it's just all of a sudden some of the chapters she's
Jojo (34:19)
Yeah.
Okay.
You Forgot (34:47)
In a different place with different people. Maybe or maybe I missed it because I'm not paying that much attention. I don't know, but ⁓ but yeah, I just like the concept of the book, the story. So I know I'm gonna finish it. And I heard the audible is like really good to listen to. So maybe
Jojo (34:48)
Maybe you'll find out at the end. Maybe that's maybe that's the twist.
⁓
we never talked about you got a Kindle for Mother's Day. How are you liking it?
You Forgot (35:15)
I haven't even opened it yet. I have a Kindle.
Jojo (35:19)
Classic still.
You Forgot (35:22)
Yeah, it's like sitting here in a box.
Jojo (35:31)
Paper white.
You Forgot (35:33)
See, I because then I have to like set it up. I know it's all like two minutes, but then like I I just I'm so weird. I really am trying to figure out what's going on with me. This has been a weird it's been a weird month.
Jojo (35:44)
It's a bridge too far. I get that. Because you have to
you're gonna have to charge it, then you're gonna have to log into your Amazon account. But then it will just automatically like sync up.
You Forgot (35:54)
I know. But see I thought my Kindle was dying. And it turns out it's fine. Like
Jojo (36:04)
Oopsies.
You Forgot (36:05)
Well, I ca but like but the reason I asked for a new Kindle is because it like it went dark and then I realized what I had done and it happened again the other night. So I was like, I'm not purposely making it go dark. So something is going wrong in there and it's about five years old. It's not like it's brand new. Right. And I can't use I can't watch or read it outside.
Jojo (36:27)
Time for a new one.
You Forgot (36:34)
Can you read yours outside? I mean, isn't that the point? No, mine gets mine gets hot in like twenty seconds and shuts down.
Jojo (36:37)
Yeah.
Yeah 'cause it's five years old.
You Forgot (36:44)
Yeah. And it always did that too. Maybe they probably got me like a like the worst model.
Jojo (36:50)
Timu Kindle.
You Forgot (36:53)
Marta said Kindle in Barnes and Noble and the cashier goes, We don't say that word. Because they have nook? Because they have a nook. Who talks about reading on their nook? It's a Kindle. You know how things get called things? Kindle. Isn't that funny?
Jojo (36:59)
brother. brother. cheer.
Losers.
That's like calling like anything a Coke. They're all just Coke. It's I need a Coke. What kind? Doctor Pepper.
You Forgot (37:18)
Well see they don't do that in the north. Like that's a south no, that's a south thing. No, no.
Jojo (37:21)
they don't.
So it's confusing
'cause when I'm now doing beverage service and someone's like, Can I get a Coke? My initial question is, Yeah, what kind? They're like, No, lit I need a Coke.
You Forgot (37:35)
No, Coca Cola.
Jojo (37:40)
Man, I could do a whole segment, maybe next podcast, about things I'm seeing on the airplane.
You Forgot (37:40)
All right.
I mean it it
Jojo (37:47)
Airplane etiquette.
You Forgot (37:52)
I don't think you're allowed to talk about it. You might not be able to talk about it.
Jojo (37:52)
I could go for hours.
I can talk about it.
You Forgot (37:59)
Okay.
We'll do some bonuses.
Jojo (38:03)
Yeah.
You Forgot (38:05)
All right, well we gotta get you a Carvana sp brandiel and I'm gonna get a cat's deli brand ail. Let's get on this.
Jojo (38:11)
There you go.
I mean, you know what I'm gonna do? I'm honestly gonna email Carvana's marketing team and be like, look at my history. Look at how many cars I've bought and sold to you. I mean, I think we're in the tens at this point. Like, do a spot on our podcast.
You Forgot (38:31)
No, I think well
Jojo (38:39)
Like give us fifty dollars off of shipping.
You Forgot (38:41)
thinking. ⁓
Jojo (38:44)
You know they also asked him to be a sub driver for the trolley on the weekends. Yeah, of course he is, duh.
You Forgot (38:50)
Is he gonna?
Has he done it yet?
Jojo (38:55)
No, he hasn't done it yet. But he told them, like, I'll start in the summer, just let me know. So if they need a subdriver like on a Friday night, if you guys are in downtown McKinney, just look at look at the trolley. It might be Matt driving it.
You Forgot (39:08)
And do you just ⁓ jump on it and it goes like it does a loop? Or does
Jojo (39:12)
Yeah, it has it has
stops all along the square and then it goes across to Tupps. And it's free. Yeah. Yeah, super fun.
You Forgot (39:19)
funsies.
Okay. Talk. Thanks for joining us today on You Forgot That I Existed. Bye bye.
Jojo (39:22)
Ha ha.
You Forgot (39:34)
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