Can I ask you a question? #6

 Happy Thanksgiving!  Joanna & Sue discuss preparations, traditions, and the emotions of navigating grief and dementia during family gatherings. They share personal anecdotes about their own holiday experiences, the challenges of caring for loved ones with Alzheimer's, and the etiquette surrounding thank you notes after a loss.  

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Joanna Anderson & Sue Nicolaidis

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Hi Joanna. Hello, it's the most wonderful time. It is questions day holiday edition. I love a questions episode. I do too. Did you put that on your TV? I did. So we're sitting in my living room and I just put, you know how you can put those on YouTube. I just put in Christmas fireplace and it's like the coziest little scene. And then if you turn the volume up, it's playing like,

piano Christmas music. I love it. Yeah, you're all ready for Christmas and I won't be doing this at my house until... Are you an after Thanksgiving girl? Kind of. Yeah. Yeah. But you know, yeah, I'll be waiting for sure. Yeah. And I hardly put anything out anymore. We didn't put a lot out.

The tree, some pictures of the kids with Santa. Yeah, I like to do that too. Stockings, that's about it. I know, I do my mantle. I have these really cute cowboy boot stocking holders. that is cute. They're so cute. They were like the, I got them the first year we moved to Texas. It cracks me up every year I put them out. And then I have my Ohio State Buckeye Nutcracker and he stands up there. And my mom had bought a Buckeye

themed train with Santa. For Anthony, I guess. That's cute. Yeah. So we have a little things that come out every year. Do you have a stocking for Cher? Of course. Yeah. Well, so we just do one generic stocking for all three puppies. Well, one year, I forget who it was, but I got a coupon code or something for Pottery Barn. So I actually had all

like embroidered stockings made. beautiful. And you just freaked me out because now I realized I'm going to open the box and there's going to be a sunny stocking. But now I just preemptively squashed my breakdown. Okay. Because I know now when I get out the stockings. You're prepared. Yes. Just take a beta blocker. Yeah, no, I just, yeah, I didn't even think about that.

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What will you do with the stocking? Hang it up. Yes, I hang it up too. And his stock, his holder has a picture of him on it. I don't know. I don't know if I can hang it. Well, that's going to be a call for Marta, I think. She might see it and be like, it's missing.

But then if she sees it, she'd be like, why is that there? So I don't know. OK. That's another question. That's a question. What do you do when your dog dies with the stocking? I could put his ashes in it. You could. That's creepy. Sorry, Santa. my god. Never mind. Never mind.

What kind of questions do we have this week? Well, let's start out. This is a really good question. It's not necessarily holiday, but someone wanted to know what's the etiquette rule after you've had a death in the family and everyone's bringing food and there's flowers. Are you expected to send thank you cards for all of that? And in what time frame? My immediate reaction is.

No, you're not expected to, but I know it's still like a tradition. And I don't, I don't know. I'm coming from the place that I would never think twice if I didn't get a thank you card after sending flowers or attending calling hours or anything like that. But it's, people still do it. I think some people are like genuinely like, I want to show how thankful I am.

But then at the same time, who has the brain space to do that right after a death? I think maybe put someone else in charge of that if you really want to do it. Or just make one general post on social media. You're right, though. No one's expecting a thank you card. I would hope not. That's pretty shitty. I do. Yeah, see if there was someone that went above and beyond.

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dropping off meals every week, something like that. Like, of course you want to say thank you, but I just don't, I don't know where, like for just attending or sending flowers. Like, don't know. I did get a thank you from a friend. Her father passed and I sent a sympathy card and just, you know, acknowledge that her father passed. And she sent me back a thing from

like the church, like the service. And it was like, thank you for, you know, caring, whatever. So they, and they were like made up and it was just like a note card and it was all personalized and everything. that's really nice. So that's a service that your funeral home does for you or your church, I mean, yeah, that's great, but I don't think it's necessary. It's not necessary. And if you drop off food at someone's house, they're going to be like, my God, thank you. And then that's enough.

And I don't do things to get things, right? Like you want to go and support and be there for people. I don't need a card. I don't need you to take this time from your family and sit there and write thank you cards and go buy the damn stamps that aren't cheap anymore. It's true. It's true. Yeah, it's not necessary. So our bottom line is if you want to do it, do it. But no one is expecting that. I wouldn't think so. I mean, maybe older people. What did you do after your mom died?

I said thank you to the people that showed up and I served them lunch and we went on our merry way. I never thought twice about it. Yeah, I think that's how I'll be too. I never even thought, knew it was a thing until a couple months ago when I was at a funeral and they were divvying up the cards to send and I was like, to who? Like I really.

It never crossed my mind. Right. No, as it shouldn't in that moment. I don't know. they were, yeah, all the, the daughter-in-laws were all, you know, taking a stack and, you know, a list of names and. mean, if they want to do it, great. I just, I just, I don't know. Maybe I'm terrible, but I didn't think about it in the moment. Or maybe it's like a Southern thing versus a Northern thing. I don't know. I don't know. I was in the North. you were. That's right.

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Interesting. I've never, and that's the first time I've ever received a thank you card. And I've sent flowers and showed up, you know, to other funerals. So I don't know. It might be like an antiquated rule.

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Yeah, I'm gonna, yeah.

I guess you kind of got to go by how you feel. yeah. There's no right or wrong answer when it comes to grief and funerals and all that. There totally isn't. I really, with Kathy Bryan, our guest last week, I loved her take on grief and how it's not linear. It changes and I teared up when she said it. I don't even know why.

I just start thinking about my mom and I was like, she's just, that lady is really smart. She's really smart and just like has so much knowledge and experience under her belt. Yeah. And like the common sense, like aspect of it too. know, it was just like, you can't do everything. She said, I'm not super woman. I needed help.

So there is a lot of good soundbites from her. She was great. She so good. Okay, next question. What does Thanksgiving and Christmas look like for Gaga this year? So when I saw this question, I was like, my God, I don't know what Thanksgiving looks like. Deborah's family will be out of town. Becky's family lives out of town. We will be in town. But like the idea of taking her to a restaurant.

I just don't think I can do it. I think what we'll do is our plans were we're gonna go see a movie, we're gonna go see Wicked, Jack wants to go see that, and then we're gonna go over to our friend's house and have like a friendsgiving because we don't really have any family here. So I think we might just pop over in the morning to see her. She doesn't know it's Thanksgiving. And surely they're doing something at the home. But I think just for like my own peace of mind, I'll just go see her.

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Yeah, even though she doesn't know. Christmas is a little different. So me and Deborah and Becky and all of our families are going on a cruise the day after Christmas up until like the third of January. So no one's going to be in town to have eyes on Gaga. But I was just thinking like, thank God we have Jubilee TV now so we can still like on the cruise.

dial into her TV and say hi to her, check in on her. I can still see on the log when she's coming in and when she's coming out. So it's like we're gonna have a nanny cam on the cruise. It's amazing. That's really cool. It's so great. It's just so great. I mean, I'm still checking that app like multiple times a day to see like, she just got back from breakfast. she must be taking a nap. Cause it tells like when they're inactive in front of the TV and for how long.

So I can see like she took an hour and 10 up. she didn't move. And anyways, we do have a code for Jubilee TV. It is you forgot 25 for $25 off. And I just can't recommend this device enough. I wish I had it. It's so great. It's so great. I would have been seat. That's so wild. Like Gaga so.

different than my mom was. I would have been super depressed because my mom would have been like sitting in her room. Like, like never leaving. Yeah, she didn't like go do any of the activities. And then I would have been just like watching her do nothing. And then I would have driven myself crazy. And she was what's the term? Aphasia? Aphasia. Yeah, she didn't. She lost a lot of words. She wasn't great at communicating, especially at the end. So calling into the TV.

probably wouldn't have been helpful. No, no. But it's nice. Like I could see on her daily report that they email me that someone called her, one of my siblings for 15 minutes the other day. And I was like, perfect. So I just, I'm like so nosy. I just want to see exactly what's going on. love it. Yeah. It's great. want to do it, put it on my kids, but that would probably be.

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my god. Well, I that would be a little invasive. I try to FaceTime Jack almost every evening and he's either doing homework or playing video games and he's so polite but I can tell he's like, was there a reason for your call? And I so I have to think of like a fake question to ask him. But I know he's like, it's my mom. I got to answer you guys. Just hold on one second because he's always playing video games with all of his friends. Yeah.

I try not to call. I don't call Jude that much because I, I don't know. I never know what he's doing, but he, sent me some snaps last night in text because they had friends giving. that's so cute. The night before he was like, I have to bring ham. And I go easy peasy. And he was like, and serve. Yeah. And he was like, he didn't realize that that, go, yeah, we're not getting a, you're not cooking a ham. know, I go, there's a glaze packet if you want to use it and everything. And

So he sent me pictures of his ham and he was like, do I go to Costco? I go, dude, go to Walmart, go anywhere, it's ham. It's ham. It's preserved with a lot of salt. And so I took a picture of how it kind of looks like a foily wrapper or that thing and I got the directions right on the tag. You'll heat it up and you'll take it over and it's amazing. And I'm like, get the spiral cut. Yep. Put that glaze on it. He was like, that was so easy. It was a hit.

Yup. I'm like, I guess I'm, you know, he's probably like, my mom's not that great of a cook. He's to be like, I'm going to volunteer for ham every time. It's so easy. I I know. It really is. I always get it after the holidays and because I want to make ham and bean soup. I love a ham sandwich. Like with that kind of ham. Yes.

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So good. We always end up talking about food. Because I love it. I love food. I could eat all day. I could too. This one says, what tips do you have for handling emotional moments like when a parent doesn't recognize a family member at a holiday gathering?

You just kind of meet them where they are. I keep hearing that phrase and it's totally true. And you as like the person without dementia just has to be, you know, aware that they might not know you. You can't.

Like I hear that you're not supposed to be like, no, don't you remember? Remember, remember. No, they don't remember. Meet them where they are. Talk about what's happening in real time. Talk about where you are, your setting, your dogs, the tablescape, whatever. not, do you remember me? And if they don't remember you, if they can't come up with your name, don't get your feelings hurt. It's just part of the disease and you just have to kind of roll with it.

We saw that with Cherry, right? Like she didn't get it at first. But then Cherry had pictures of them from their past. So smart. And jogged her memory. So maybe if you're going to a family gathering and you know that there's going to be someone there with some memory issues, bring some pictures. Yeah, that's a good tip. Like actually go and print them out, people. Yes, she had a whole box of actual pictures. Like don't, the phone is not translating. No. No. Yeah.

And you never know, they might come back for a minute. Yep, you never know. don't let it like rattle you, even though that's easier said than done. Just like Sue said, meet them where they are and try to preserve their dignity. And yeah, don't confuse them anymore. Yeah, you know, just be like.

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the nice person at the dinner. Just, you know. And you can still talk to them. Like they can, I mean, for the most part, my mom can hold a conversation. I loved visiting with all the other residents when I was at my mom's place. And I, not to say I didn't want to hang out and talk to her, but that was so hard because A, she, you know, couldn't communicate that.

great and I was just so sad and like yeah it was just heartbreaking but everybody else I like loved I mean like because they could have conversations maybe they didn't know who they were talking to right they were talking about it might be all just made up but it's still fun this one woman told me all about her adventures on the Red River in Oklahoma and like I looked forward to seeing her every time because she was just had like

a ton of really sweet stories about growing up and stuff. And I just sat there and listened to her and I did feel guilty that I liked her better than my mom, but I didn't really. She was just... You didn't have that emotional sadness with her. breaking my heart. No, no. Yeah. So just have a conversation with them and see what's going on. Okay. Are there any holiday traditions that you still try to incorporate into Christmas with your parent with Alzheimer's? No.

No, no, they don't remember. No, no, I when my mom was at my house, I had a bunch of like ornaments that she had given me. And I tried to like make a moment out of that and blah, blah, blah. It just doesn't it didn't work. Yeah, I think you got to lower the bar on that and just realize that was that moment has passed.

My mom used to always get one of our family members like chocolate covered cherries every year. My mom did that too for our next door neighbor. That is so weird. birthday and Christmas. Yes. And one day he looked at me and he goes.

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I've never liked chocolate covered cherries. And they were all sane. This was a million years ago. And I was like, what? Like for some reason, my mom got those all the time for her You know, I don't know if my brother even likes them either, but she, every year it was under the tree and everyone knew it. I think now if I were to bring her a box of chocolate covered cherries, she'd be like, what is this? Like it wouldn't translate.

gosh, no. I remember getting a sandwich for my mom that she liked, like a French dip. yeah. She was like, I've never had this before in my life. I was like, bitch, used to get Arby's and get the two for five deal with the coupon that you got in the mail. Like Arby's was our jam. Arby's was eating out. we were just talking about this last night, the Arby's five for five. We lived on that in college. Matt and I would get five for five. I'd eat two, he'd eat three.

This is not appropriate, but whatever. Me and Jen were in Myrtle Beach and we were like 18. We went for spring break. We drove down with like these little skater boys and stuff and we might have not been sober and we were in like a hotel party all night and then it was like, it was like the morning and like.

We go outside and their streets are empty, right? Like the midway or whatever, was empty. And she goes, where did everybody go? And I was like, Arby's five for five. Do you remember that commercial? Yes. So good with the horsey sauce. Where did everybody go? Arby's. That's so funny. And we were stranded and we had no idea where we were.

Then we saw the guys that we drove down with from Ohio cruise by too. And we're like, wait, no way. That was a fun trip. I can't believe my mom let me do that. was just about to say. She had no control. She'd rather not fight, I guess. I think I was 18. So was this high school or college? High school. my God. Yeah. No, my parents never would have let me do that. Never. I think about all those kinds of things that my mom did let me do.

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And I'm just like, she just couldn't deal or like say no and deal with the ramifications, I guess. Well, when Deborah came around five years later, it was a completely different story. She was going on trips with her friends, spending the night places like they didn't have any clue where she was at. Really? Yeah, it was just different times, I guess. Yeah, they were older. gosh, I don't know about you, but when my kids were like starting like the freshman year and everything and

there would be other parents like driving, dropping off or like letting their kids do these things that my kids coming home going, so and so is doing it. We can go like blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, they must have older kids. Yep. They always had older kids. Yep. And I'm like, you're my first kid doing this. And I wasn't crazy overprotective, but.

I mean, I would go, people would put their kids in Ubers. Is there a 14, 15 year? Absolutely not. It drove me crazy. And I'm like, well, I will pick you up and drive, you know, like.

So I was, you know. I remember one of our biggest fights was Sloan. Her, group of friends were gonna walk from our house in downtown McKinney to the movie theater, which is like two miles away at nighttime. Absolutely not. And I was like, I'll take you. And they were like, well, that kind of the fun of it is walking. I was like, you're not, that's not happening. And they were like, well, so-and-so's mom said it was fine. Older kids. And I was like, it's not fine with me. I'm sorry, I'm gonna be the bad guy here, but you're not doing that. I.

top of being the bad guy, I called the other moms except for the one who had already said yes. And I said, did you know this is what our children are doing tonight? All of them were like, we had no idea and that's absolutely not happening. I was the same way. I snitched. I did too. Yeah. And like, I didn't feel bad at one point telling this mom ago, I'm not okay with our 14 year olds getting in an Uber from Dallas to Frisco. No. Because you

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want to go out, you want to do whatever, then they don't leave your house then. Yeah. then you'd, I know some parents ruin it for everyone. Kind of. Yeah. You just have to be on top of it. And you have to be friends or you have to know the other parents. Yeah. Like at least had phone numbers to be like, did you know this is happening? Jude's group of friends were.

amazing like the parents we were all on the same page they were not too sneaky or shady but there would be times where we're like who's driving down to Dallas like when they were supposed to be in Plano yeah and then you'd call and but then all the parents would be like nope I told them they couldn't leave blah blah blah they're supposed to be here whatever and you're trying to give them

like a little bit of independence, then when you don't fuck with me, right? I I will destroy you. Yes. Like don't lie. I hate the lies. I hate it. Hate it. Hate it. And I remember catching Jude and like, and it, it was not a big lie, but it was sneaky. Yeah.

I can't stand that. yeah. We've all caught our kids being sneaky. No one's an angel. And then like his girlfriend's mom, we would call each other, be like, they say they're sleeping here. They say there's a more like, uh-uh. Like, don't fib. Yeah. You know. And that's an easy one to catch. Yes. So yeah, we always kind of had Jude's guy friends, too. We always had each other's numbers and we'd be like.

we would know where they were like sleeping and you know. Yeah. So it's easy now too with I have always had them on location. Yeah, I can pretty much, I can see their location. I don't, my husband Jack's like every 20 minutes. Like I don't know what he thinks they're doing or like he's. I think I check out of boredom. like, it's Jack in his dorm. he's at the lab. Like I'm just nosy. I can't see Sloan cause she's in Korea and they don't allow that. When is she home? December 13th, Taylor's birthday.

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Are you gonna have a birthday party for Taylor here and your daughter walks in and like chastises you for the rest of the month? Yeah, I'm gonna yeah bring balloons to the airport, but they're happy birthday balloons Okay, we got off track let's get back What's one piece of advice you'd give someone experiencing their first holiday season with a parent who has Alzheimer's the first season?

So the first season, they're not that bad. I would say, I just remember with my mom, we tried to take her down to Deborah's house, which is a 45 minute drive, and we got there, she immediately wanted to leave. So plan a very short outing. And know, speaking of Ubers, we put her in an Uber.

and send her ass home. We did. Was she still living at her house at No, we put her to assisted living, an Uber to assisted living. my God, that Uber driver was probably like, where's my tip? Yeah, we sent a message to him like, she's got Alzheimer's, just please just drop her off and make sure she gets inside. my God, that's a lot of pressure. I know. You guys are We were dicks. So don't do that. Plan ahead. They don't want to be out of the house too long. No.

And it's really funny because they think they do. And then they get really antsy and agitated. And God forbid you don't do it at the right time because then that sundowning thing is a real thing. That's the thing. And it was after dark when my mom was like, I need to get out. I need to go. It's just.

about making things very simple. Yes, at lowering your expectations. It's not going to be like it used to be. You can try to do all the same kind of traditions and, you know, make the same kind of foods and stuff, but you just don't want to expect anything. Don't expect they to participate. Great. But if they are doing that shutting down, pulling away, not socializing thing, you just have to let them. have to let them. Yep. I Alzheimer's. It's the worst.

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It's so tricky. Especially at the holidays. I know. All right, our last question. Have you started your Christmas shopping? No. I am? Done. I know. I hate to be that person, but I like, if I make a list, I love a to-do list and I just start checking things off and I made my to-do list about three weeks ago with all the presents I was getting.

So I'm done, but I have not wrapped them yet. I really don't know what I'm doing for the kids. mean, Marta has a couple things on her list, but she is so bougie. And I am done with this like, these surprises or spending the money. It's like, your life is a gift. everything about your day is Christmas. Yep. And I just, I don't want to be like a grinch about it, but like,

Isn't this the age, like, where you're getting things that you need or you're getting rent paid for the month or something like a gift you can actually use? Like, I'm not going to Sephora and just buying a bunch of shit. I know. Well, we had the kids send their wish list about three weeks ago, me and Becky and Deborah, because the guys don't even. Does Anthony do anything for Christmas presents?

Matt does nothing. Anthony, he does like a last minute thing and spends, I have like a gift card for like 300 bucks to some facial that I'll never do. yeah. Like the nieces and nephews, nothing. Like that's all on me. God, yeah. So we, as sisters, we coordinate and get all the kids to send us lists so we can start shopping. Sloan's List probably sounds a lot like Marta's. It's a lot of eritia, a lot of shoes.

a lot of makeup, lot of, is it aloe? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I'm done with all of that. I'm not buying her clothes or anything. If we go shopping when she's here, maybe, but no, I just feel like they need things right now. there's not, she wants this sleep.

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and she has sleep issues, so I mean, I'll probably get it. But she asked for it like a couple weeks ago and I'm like, I'm not getting it now. Like, no, no, every gift from here until January is a Christmas present. You did something the other day and he was like, yeah, it was like his Halloween costume. And I was like, I thought you already got that or whatever. asked for it, like, he goes, you wanna split it with me, like Christmas? And I was just like, okay, that's a Christmas present? Yeah. For real?

but he's going abroad. So I mean, I'm not gonna buy him a bunch of stuff that's gonna like sit in his empty apartment or like, so his presents are gonna be like stuff he needs for the trip. Yeah. When does he leave? January 3rd, 7th, something. the beginning of January. Yeah. Sloan goes back January 13th to DC. wow. So we get her for like a full month. Isn't it funny how we want them for a full month and then

couple days in and we're like, don't pick a fight with me. I know I can see you're bored and you're going to pick a fight with me. Don't do it. I could see it on their faces as soon as they like, they're just like, can, what rude thing can I say just because I'm so bored to get a reaction? I don't, is that just our kids? No, God, no. Okay. And I, I mean, and it's really just the girls. yeah. I,

my son, we got into it like just on text. was just like, I gave him shit about something and he goes, I think I've been, you know, great about this or whatever. And I was like, do not get defensive with me. Like, my God. But we very rarely have any kind of argument because he's just.

He's nice to me. Yes. Jack and I, he knows how to play the game. I know. Speaking of Jack's list, every year it's so eclectic. This year he's really into hot tea. So he's asked for all this different kinds of loose leaf tea. you got to get him like the little cage thing. Well, he doesn't listen, so I did get him Tea kettle, but not just a normal one. He wants to be able to adjust the temperature to exactly whatever it's supposed to be.

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He also asked for a cookbook. good. And what cookbook? I can't, I don't know. I think Becky got it for him. some YouTuber that he followed us. don't know. Matty Matheson. This guy from the show. maybe. then he wanted the Princess Peach t-shirt. So, yeah. Bam. Done and done. Yeah, I have no idea. I mean, I got a sweatshirt, a shirt for Jude that I grabbed.

I don't know, I haven't bought anything yet. Actually Jude has something else too. I just see something and I think of him and you know. I know. yeah, I don't know what I'm gonna do. I have no idea about Anthony.

Matt doesn't want anything and when he says he doesn't want anything, he really doesn't want anything. So I don't get him anything. Well, I don't want anything either. don't either. don't want and I got to make sure I tell my daughter this because she really she's a good gift giver. She likes to. She sees something that reminds her of whoever and she likes to get it and I was the same way and. And she likes, but she.

She bought me a dress from a Ritzia last year and it's great. Yeah. But I'm like, the denim dress she got. was so cute. I know it's so good. To tell you some chick said to me at the show the other night, she was like, where are you from originally or something? And I said, Ohio. And she goes, really? You look so like Texas. And I go, And like me and like these other girls, we like go.

It's like a denim dress. Were you wearing cowboy bits? I had like little booties on that kind of have a western feel to But I was in Fort Worth, yo. was like just... Yeah, you were at Charlie Crockett. Of course you're gonna dress like that. I was just, yeah, vibing with the country people. But you know what? Looking like Texas is not an insult. It was the way she said it. She was surprised I was from Ohio. What do Ohio people dress like? I have no idea. Nothing. Ohio State Buckeye shit all over the place?

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Jesus. was, it was, it was, I was actually silenced. you were without speech. Because my face said a lot, but I bit my tongue because I didn't know what she meant. It seemed a little weird. Yeah. In general, you probably just shouldn't comment on people's clothes or look unless you're like, look so cute. It was very weird. Yeah.

But whatever. Well, those are all the questions we have. We are about to go do something really exciting, which I've been waiting for for over a year. Where are going? We're going to see Wicked. I'm excited because I've never seen the play and I don't know the story. I'm going to pack us some Kleenex. You're not really a crier, but I will be bawling. I cry, but like, I don't know.

I'm really just going for Jonathan Bailey. so cute. He's the cutest guy in the world. Like, I think he's like literally, I mean, aside from being homosexual, he's my type. Yeah. But honestly, homosexual is my type. I know, but I still like he's still like.

I mean, I don't typically find myself attracted to men that I know they wouldn't like me back. Yeah. But he's so charming. And that accent. He's the cutest guy in the world. And I heard that Bowen Yang is a scene stealer. That tracks. Yeah. So. Well, we'll have to update it next week. see. Sloan already saw it and she said it exceeded all expectations and her bar was set very high. Cool.

All right, well this is gonna be on next week. Are you cooking for Thanksgiving? No, we're going to Daniel and Sarah's. you are? Yeah. You don't have to make anything? I'll probably make something little. Apps or something? Yeah, yeah. And you're cooking, right? I cook and we go up to Dan and Kelly's and Frisco Cousins and Dan.

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smokes a bunch of meat, like he has a smoker and the outside grill, all that fun stuff. think the egg, I don't know what he has at this point. He's a man with smokers. But I do all the sides. Yeah, that's right. And so I woke up there and Jude is home this year. He skipped out on it last year. He went home with a friend. that's right. To Ohio. Yeah. And it was like random that they had.

They knew the house or something. It was Anthony's dad's old house. Yeah, it's so weird. So basically my son was sleeping in his grandpa's house, old house. Just by random chance. Yep. So weird. Yep. Like his friend, his friend Nick's parents bought that house like a year before they were friends. It's wild. Like small world. What is that noise? That was your dryer. Jesus.

You didn't recognize No, I'm like, what is that noise? It sounds just like mine. okay. There be an LG in there. is, sure is. All righty. All right, let's go get to the movies. Yes. Okay, bye, bye.